exclusive relationship

thoughts from eog, SOP's

not yet. not exclusively. no when you are in high school. (never when you are in grade school and preschool! omigosh!) no when you are a HedCen student. no when you have to grapple with math, english, chem, bio, physics, geo, eco, ap, fil,etc. no when you are on the threshold of discovering who you are and can be. NO when you have an identity crisis or cannot find yourself, because you will never find yourself through someone else.

You are, at present, a part of a small family in school and you cannot lose a friend because you were “young lovers” once. That’s what usually happens when you enter an exclusive relationship- you end up being cold and bitter enemies. If there are 14 others outside yourself in your class, losing one is a significant number. What if that One is the next Henry Sy and you have busted the chance of being close to him or of being referred to as the high school buddy? Oh yes, time heals all wounds but not high school notoriety. If you did not get along during your high school days, you will never have the chance in college. Not when your friends and acquaintance include a lot more.

HedCen is not being KJ ( what is the present lingo for this which means kill-joy?), it only wants you to enjoy that phase when you are carefree and not heartbroken, betrayed, two-timed, or “taken-advantaged of”.

You enter into an exclusive relationship because you feel you have a nose bigger than your face, or that your face grew from a pimple, or your teeth is too crooked for your own good, or your legs are spindly, too short or too thin, plump not firm, etc., etc. and that this relationship will make you feel better about yourself? not when you start seeing him or her talking with a god or goddess! Naah! this won’t make you feel good.

Think of the time wasted on depression, jealousy and insecurity. You could have just loved yourself by getting to know and discover that indeed, you don’t need someone to make you whole. You could have passed your algebra or memorized the lines from Romeo and Juliet had you just enjoyed the presence of friends who admire you or love you and vice versa without strings attached.

(If you are a new student of HedCen, please read your Student Handbook, page 22,b2,2nd paragraph.)

eog @ August 23, 2007